Attractive

 Earlier this year a non Christian, married, male friend of mine told me he found me attractive. Which was unexpected! And which actually threw me a bit. How to respond?  More to the point, what to do with such a statement in my head.  Of course the initial response was to feel rather pleased and flattered. It's nice to think of oneself as attractive to someone else, especially when you are 57, menopausal and haven't actually felt attractive in a long time.  But then of course there's the 'agenda' question. Why is he saying this? What does it mean when one married person finds another attractive?  And says it out loud?  I confess to getting into a bit of a flap about it.

Eventually (doh!) I talked to Jesus. Who, as ever, had something simple and helpful to say.  'What he sees in you that he finds attractive Caz, IS ME!'

Of course! Jesus is the most attractive person who ever lived. He is kind and warm and funny. He is compassionate and understanding and full of wisdom and grace. I've known Him for 40 years, and my prayer for all those years has been that people might see Him in me. And guess what? They do!!! They see Him in you too.

We should be ( and many of us are) the most lovely people on earth. People should be drawn to us for all the same reasons they were drawn to Jesus. But we need to recognise that what is good in us is Him.  Without Him we are as ugly as the world is.  

The reason so many Christian leaders fall into sin is probably because they forget that people are attracted to Jesus in them and believe that the attraction is about them.  My friend finds me attractive because he doesn't know Jesus and I'm the closest thing he's found.  He is mystified by my actions, attitude, and character and finds himself drawn to talk to me. (He is very happily married and we only see each other once in a blue moon so it's all OK if you are worrying 😊) But it would be foolish not to acknowledge that there is a danger in being like Jesus.  If they don't want to marry you they probably want to kill you!!! 


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